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Short, practical ideas for the conversations that matter. Use them on your own, or try them in a guided session together.
Recurring arguments · 2 min read
Flooding: why you can't listen when you're overwhelmed, and how to take a break
When a fight gets too heated, your body goes into alarm and listening becomes almost impossible. Here's how to recognise it and pause in a way that helps.
Communication · 2 min read
How to bring up a problem without starting a fight
The first minute of a conversation shapes how it ends. A gentle way to raise something hard, with sentences you can use.
Recurring arguments · 2 min read
How to repair after a fight
Every couple argues. What protects a relationship is repair: the small moves during an argument, and the conversation after it, that bring you back together.
Family and parenting · 2 min read
In-laws, joint families and boundaries: working as a team
When parents and in-laws are closely involved, couples can feel caught between loyalties. How to agree as a couple first, and set warm, specific boundaries.
Money and finances · 2 min read
Money arguments: what they're really about, and how to talk about them
Fights about spending, saving and family support are rarely only about money. How to understand what's underneath, and make money decisions together.
Recurring arguments · 2 min read
The pursue–withdraw cycle: when one wants to talk and the other goes quiet
One partner pushes to talk, the other pulls away, and each makes the other worse. How to see the cycle as the problem, not each other.
Communication · 2 min read
The speaker–listener technique: how to take turns in a hard conversation
A simple structure for arguments that keep going round in circles: one person speaks, the other listens and says back what they heard, then you swap.
Emotional connection · 2 min read
The weekly check-in: a 10-minute habit for couples
Small, regular conversations stop things from building up. A simple structure for a weekly check-in you'll actually keep.